Confidence

Last Friday at a family gathering, everyone started singing happy birthday to my 8-year-old. She immediately looked down, blushed, and tried to hide behind me. Instead of immediately rescuing her from the attention, I remembered our family’s commitment to the Life-Ready approach. I gently encouraged her to stay in front and accept the attention. After the song, she smiled shyly. The look of discomfort mixed with growing pride on her face told me we had a perfect opportunity to practice being the center of attention in a low-stakes environment. ...

Every parent has faced this scenario: Your child proudly shows you their artwork, clearly pleased with their accomplishment. Do you shower them with enthusiastic praise, or do you gently suggest they could add more detail? Praise your child for making their bed and they beam with pride. But is this confidence genuine, or have you created an inflated sense of achievement that might crumble when they face real challenges? Balancing confidence-building with realistic self-assessment is one of the most delicate tasks of parenting. Too little praise and children may develop under-confidence, limiting themselves to safe choices and avoiding challenges. Too much praise and they may develop over-confidence, becoming risk-averse when challenges arise or fragile when facing setbacks. ...