Communication

The phrase that every parent has uttered at least once: “Because I said so.” It’s the verbal equivalent of pulling rank, the nuclear option of parental authority, the go-to response when patience runs thin and explanations feel impossible. For generations, parents have relied on this phrase as a quick fix for compliance, believing that authority-based commands are necessary for discipline and safety. But here’s what the research reveals: “Because I said so” isn’t just an outdated parenting relic – it’s actually counterproductive to the very goals it claims to achieve. The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry reports that authoritarian parenting approaches, including the use of unexplained commands, correlate with decreased cooperation, reduced emotional intelligence, and poorer long-term compliance in children. What we’ve long considered “strong parenting” is actually undermining the very skills we hope to develop in our children. ...

The eye roll. The sarcastic comment. The defiant “whatever” delivered with maximum attitude. Sound familiar? If you’re a parent, you’ve probably found yourself thinking, “What’s wrong with this kid’s attitude?” after one of these interactions. We’ve all been there – watching our child behave in ways that seem unnecessarily disrespectful, rude, or just plain obnoxious. But here’s what the data reveals: what we label as “attitude” or “rudeness” is almost never actually about disrespect. It’s usually a child’s attempt to communicate something important that they don’t yet have the skills to express in a more socially acceptable way. The American Academy of Pediatrics reports that 78% of “attitude problems” in children are actually manifestations of unmet needs, developmental challenges, or communication difficulties that are being expressed through behavior. ...