Understanding Personal Values and Living Authentically: The Values Compass Protocol
The evening my son Ethan came home from a friend’s birthday party and sat quietly at the kitchen table in our suburban Denver home, I knew something was weighing on him. He was eleven years old, and the silence was unusual enough that I put down my book and asked what was wrong. The story came out slowly, in the halting way that children tell stories they are not sure they should be telling. At the party, a group of boys had started making fun of a quieter kid named Sam for liking a video game that the group had decided was uncool. Ethan had laughed along, not because he thought the game was uncool, but because he did not want to be the next target. Sam had left early. Ethan had stayed. And now, sitting at our kitchen table with a half-eaten cookie he had brought home, Ethan said the words that every parent dreads and secretly hopes to hear: “I do not think I was a good person tonight.” In that moment, I saw the beginning of something profound: the awakening of a personal values system that had been operating on autopilot and was now, for the first time, being examined consciously. ...