Developing Comfort with Ambiguity and Uncertainty: The Fog Navigation Protocol
The Saturday morning my daughter Sophie stood in front of a half-assembled bookshelf from IKEA, holding the instruction manual upside down, and started to cry, I witnessed something that would change how I think about teaching children to handle uncertainty. She was eight years old, sitting on our living room floor in Portland, Oregon, surrounded by wooden dowels, cam locks, and particleboard panels that were supposed to become a bookshelf but currently resembled modern art. The instructions had pictures but no words, and the pictures showed a sequence of steps that made sense individually but not collectively. “I do not know what to do,” she said, and the frustration in her voice was not really about the bookshelf. It was about the gap between what she expected, which was a clear set of directions that would lead to a predictable outcome, and what she had, which was a puzzle with missing pieces and no guarantee of success. My instinct was to take the manual, figure it out myself, and hand her the solved steps. Instead, I sat down next to her on the floor and said, “Let us figure it out together. We might get it wrong a few times first.” ...